Relationships — of all kinds — are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand the sand
remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers.
You may hold onto some of it, but mostly it will be spilled. A relationships is like that. Held loosely, with respect and
freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship
slips away and is lost.
— Kahlil Jamison
This is such a truthful statement. A prime example of this is my friend who committed suicide. Her parents were very
strict with her. They wouldnt let her see any of her friends on the holidays or days off, she never got the privacy she deserved,
she wasnt allowed on the telephone for more than half an hour at a time, and she wasnt allowed to talk to boys. Her parents
got too much for her to handle so she decided that she wanted to die. She never gave a warning. She only complained of how
much it sucked to be her. If we are afraid of losing the ones we love and we hold on to them too tightly, chances are we have
already lost them.